When my first child was 6 weeks old, my husband and I took her to see her relatives four hours away. I was stressed out from working, lactating, not sleeping and still recovering from giving birth. So I asked my husband to pack her some clothes. A 6-week-old baby doesn't need a lot of planning when it comes to outfits, just throw 20 sleepers in a suitcase and call it good.
My Son Prefers His Dad Over Me And Here's Why That's OK
The Psychology Behind Strained Father Son Relationships
It was hard for me to accept that toddler seemed to favor his dad. But I soon learned that my son's behavior didn't mean he loved me any less. Early in our son Ben's life, my husband, Kevin, often said something I realize now was only half in jest: "I'm just the butler-janitor. So I was the one Ben reached for post-needle at the pediatrician's, the one who coaxed out his first chuckles, the one whose cheek he lived to stroke. And I was ignorant and arrogant enough to think that this arrangement was permanent. But soon—surprise! From Ben's 11th month to his 23rd who's counting?
So When Dads Make Mistakes It's Funny, But When Moms Do It's a Freaking Tragedy
Over the years of working with men in therapy, I discovered that the issues that so often come up about careers or relationships could often be traced back, sooner or later, to the lack of relationship with their fathers. Kafka goes on to say that the hostility his father expressed against him as a child, he now turns against himself. These descriptions are representative of how men recall their fathers relating to them. But even more striking than the obvious damage and wounds, is the repressed longing.
It's no secret that parenting is one of the most difficult jobs out there. And no matter how conscientious and careful a parent may be, they're bound to make mistakes here and there. While there's no set of instructions for proper parenting—as every child, and family, is different—there are certain behaviors a parent can, and should, work to avoid. We've spoken to a host of family experts to pinpoint the most frequently-committed parental sins.